Halevi, lets get real here. Everyone has a hand in this, not just the doctors, not just the parents OK? The schools are as much to blame as anyone else, they are not blameless and they are NOT clueless so lets NOT leave them out of the equation. To do so is to be deaf, dumb and blind. If you want to be honest about a problem then we have to be honest about the problem and face up to the truth. You can’t choose who to blame because its ok to blame the parents but hands off when it comes to demanding that Roshei Yeshivas and mechanchim be accountable and responsible.
Parents and mechanchim share a partnership in raising and educating children. We have to look in both areas honestly when there is a problem and we have to hold both sides of the equation equally as responsible when they are successful and when they are not.