I have never gotten so frustrated reading anything on this site before. What is the point of procreating if we are not going to be involved in the child rearing? It is not the Rabbeim who are responsible for raising our children. That is our job. That is why Hashem gave us the beautiful bracha to be able to have children, and have a family. And kollel-wife, maybe YOU do not like to have dinner with your children, and maybe YOU find it hard(?) that sometimes your sons may want to go get a nosh at the store, but that is part of life. You get married, you raise a family, and you spend the rest of your days trying to build on that family and ensure YOUR values and the values of Torah within them. Why is it that so many of you want to send your young children away? So that if they go off the derech you can say ” oh its not me i had nothing to do with their upbringing?”.
And to those of you who said you dont trust parents to raise their OWN children? Who are we as individuals or as a whole to decide how ANY child is to be raised other than our own? If i want to raise my child to have no midos, nebach but that’s MY choice. That is why it would be MY child. This is a silly thread and it makes me sad that there are beautiful children out there who’s parents cant wait to send them off.