A Heimishe Mom -“Basic mentchlichkeit, I would hope, is lesson number one in all chessed programs in every high school. I don’t care how or why an orginization is run. The girls themselves should have shown better middos than that. Sorry. They ARE at fault here!”
mytake -“Health -In this case I don’t think it had anything to do with the organization. Nobody has to tell them that common sense says, keep things more or less quiet.”
aries2756 -“If you are at a wedding and offer to do a chessed on the way home from that wedding, then it is your responsibility to leave that wedding on time no matter what. The other girls are either in it with you or not. Your obligation is first to the job you agreed to do and the girls at the wedding should be made aware of that. If she didn’t understand the obligation or responsibility she took on when agreeing to pick up this person from the hospital then she shouldn’t have volunteered and someone else would have. That is the point. Her “Job” was to leave the wedding on time and make herself available to the person in need on time, be courteous to that person and be understanding to them. If she couldn’t do it, or didn’t understand how its done, then she should have left it up to someone who could.
Anyone who volunteers to do a “chessed” should understand what they are signing up for. They are NOT doing a favor for someone else who should be grateful to them. They are signing up to do a mitzvah and they should be grateful for the opportunity to do it understanding that if the shoe was on the other foot, Hashem will send them their own shelichim to help them.”
I agree with your above posts, but let me explain my post.
It’s the responsibility of the org. to make sure things run smoothly. If the volunteer is not reliable -they can’t be allowed to volunteer. The org. have to prioritize their funding. If all they have is some girls coming home from a Chasunah to pick up people, then they should pay money for a reliable driver. These orgs. have tons of money for every Naarishkeit they can think of, but they can’t do even the basic Chessed right.
Again this rant doesn’t apply to all orgs., just a few whom use their power to do whatever they want and tell you if you don’t like it -lump it -We’re Volunteers! These few orgs. don’t know the meaning of Chessed. And trust me Mytake’s incident isn’t the only one; it’s more like most of the time this goes on! It’s time for the Klal to start cleaning house – Orgs. that don’t know what the word L’shem Shomayim means have to go!