Why do some posters sound so angry all the time? If you agree to do a chessed, then do it correctly in a way that is truly a chessed. Otherwise you are only doing a favor. Chessed goes beyond a favor. It means doing something to benefit someone else with a sense of kindness and caring involved. I can do a favor for anyone, and feel put upon, or only do it at my convenience. If I am doing a chessed, it should be at the recipient’s convenience, otherwise it is not a full chessed, and maybe someone else should do it.
My father O”H had a favorite quote that really defined him. He always taught me, “Hamaschil b’mitzvah, omrim lo g’mor!” If you are going to do a mitzvah, finish it, do it the right way. If you agree to be part of Bikur Cholim and take someone to and from the hospital, make every effort to be on time. Glitches Do happen, so call the person and let him/her know there is a problem. It is simple menschlechkeit.
In most areas of life, we are not “entitled.” But never make a “beggar” (and that is such a not-nice expression to describe someone vulnerable who is depending on someone else when they need help)feel he is being choosy because he needs your help to be done in the specific way he reasonably exprected it to be done, when you offered to do it.