My Take: I can truly appreciate your questions. I think everyone is different and every case is different. The fear in me NEVER goes away, nor from the patient unfortunately! She is seeing someone now who ( for other reasons)I hope will be able to help her deal with this as well.It doesn’t only affect her, it affected the whole family who was aware.I try to work on my emuna and bitochin, that’s part of my choosing this screen name after all. We really need to believe that everything has a reason and everything is for the good. Hashem has been extremely kind to us, we’ve had various tests in life. I pray we pass all of them.
One thing I definitely have learned no one is guarenteed in life.
One of my children was “redt” a shidduch with a “survivor” they couldn’t believe I would consider it for a healthy child. Though we couldn’t turn it down for that reason.We understood… (BTW it didn’t work out anyway)