My Take: Sorry I didnt reply earlier. Just checked in tonight.
First of all, amen to your brochos! I also remember the total feeling of exhaustion! I wondered if I would ever be able togo back to a routine life? Sometimes I used to look out the window and wondered how are all those people just going on with their lives? Do they understand? If you would like to share the name of your family member I would try to have her in mind… Wishing you and your family a true lichtig Channukah!!