Again – it’s a Shaila for Halachah responders, this should not be judged by feelings, emotions. Controversial – yes, in halacha, others (cute little me in the lead) should stay out.
Gemutlichkeit, goodwill, etiquette fly out the window in the face of halacha. Of course one must use proper judgement how to fulfill HaShem’s ratzon with the least slight to another being, but mitzvha and aveira considerations take precedence.