I am not following.
You are getting dates, so it’s not as bad as those who are not getting any calls.
Are the fellows your age or older?
The reason I ask this is that my daughter B’H has met someone that is serious now but his age was 5 years older i beleive he was more ready than had she been setup with some of her age.
Perhaps these 21-24yo boys are not really ready for marriage and are sort being forced into it?
I recognize that we also may have just been incredibly lucky but
it sounds also that you are being a little nitpicking.
You should pick one that you like and invest more time than just the one date and saying negative things.
I am not meaning to hurt you in any way I can imagine the Tzaar you are going through is very real, I am just looking at it as the alte kocher I am.