I didn’t say to use my words but I think many fellows, if they are seriously dating would be happy to hear what’s on the girl’s mind, done in a positive way. I didn’t mean to sound cold and arrogant, I have been in her place that is, I didn;’t get married till older.
Ultimately, they are going to have to communicate about these sorts of things when married so what is the harm in starting now?
As far as Shidduch crisis my understanding of it was for girls or guys already older (early 30’s ) girls especially who unfortunately have lesser chances unless something radical is done. Some of the peoople don’t get calls for shidduch anymore, RLTL”, Hashem Yishmor.
The OP indicated that she is getting as many dates as she can handle so it’s a different sort of crisis, hers is a communications gap.
It would be helpful to know what specifically is causing her such anguish what is that they are saying/doing. Even if OP is not into this it’s probably a prevalent feeling and could be helpful to others.