PinkOcean88, I don’t want to be offensive, so if I come off that way, I apologize. If you feel that all the guys you’ve dated are not up to par, is it possible that you’re dating the wrong “type” of guys? If all the guys you’ve gone out with are the way you described in your OP, maybe you should try to date other types of men.
I don’t think a girl should ever lower her standards, but maybe yours is too high? Date the guys you want to date. From your post it sounds as if you’re forced to date these guys. I can be wrong, though. Maybe I misunderstood your post. But please don’t blame the guys (even if, yes, they aren’t as good as girls). You need to go find the guys you want.