Reply To: Does it really matter why kids go off the derech?

DaasYochid: its a fair point, but the way i see it, and the point i was making, is that while we do indeed have to be aware of all the potential reasons and possible causes, to try and define why people go off the derech is pointless. in other words, you should be ready for whatever you may encounter but should not try and focus on one over the other as a cause because that would simply cause you to overlook the hundreds of others who are off the derech for a thousand other reasons.

for example, when someone blames rebbeim for kids going off the derech, whether its true or not, they are excluding those who go off the derech because their parents abuse them etc…so instead of focusing on and trying to find the definitive answer to why kids go off the derech, one should instead prepare himself for whatever he may see or hear from people he is trying to help, because the possibilities are limitless.