Two of my five are off the derech; it is a 24/7 nightmare. Both of these kids were oppositional from the start, so the fact that they reject halacha, with all its rules, is understandable … kinda. But some of the people who should have been able to avert the problem only made it worse: Rabbis who didn’t take their questions seriously. Principals who lied. Teachers who told the one with LD (that was especially pronounced in Hebrew) that he was stupid.
In case we aren’t suffering enough and guilting ourselves enough, we are subjected to the pervasive mindset that if the kid is OTD, it’s the parents’ fault. Period.
They’re 19 and 25 now, and not very open to finding a way back in. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.