Dear Confused, Abused Mother,
Depending where you live, there is much help that can be obtained for women who experience patterns of emotional, physical, and psychological abuse. You’re not alone. While I understand the shame and the fear that you experience, realize that you’re not going to be able to change your husband who appears to have serious issues with power and control (to say the least) and appears to be a very troubled person. You have an obligation to protect yourself and your children. You can call anonymously a form of child protective service to report child abuse or call the police. A shelter may end up being the safest place for you and your children. However, getting to a point of implementing such a step may be very frightening. Therefore, please reach out quietly and anonymously to the Shalom Task Force in New York or to any Jewish Family Service in your area. I believe that most have specific people who can help you.
You can reach the Shalom Task Force at:
http://www.shalomtaskforce.org/
888 883 2323 (718 337 3700)
I’m a professional clinical social worker who specializes in helping people in similar situations. I would love to help you. Please have the YWN moderators email me and we can hopefully get in touch that way.
Sincerely,
A Caring Clinician