Dear ARWSF
I grew up with a tyrannical father he was ill tempered towards all his children but to me especially he couldn’t handle the fact that i was born with several physical and mental shortcomings the physical scars only last a short time but the emotional scars are still with me, he blamed me for ruining his logical life he would say awful things to me and put me down daily, he was a rebbe and i was in his class one year one day he called on me and i stumbled over a letter and he said look he doesnt even know the aleph bais, this was a typical thing for him to do not always in public but sometimes yes in front of my peers it was most hurtful.
At my sisters vort i asked him to introduce me to the chosson and he said oh he doesnt need to meet me very derisively this was my whole life a lifetime of emotional gehennom.
I cant tell you what to do but you know how he really is and you know what can happen if you choose to stay you were brave to post this continue to be brave and do what is best for the children.