WIY, please read what I wrote and not what you think I wrote. I wrote “please tell your friends what you are feeling” I didn’t advise that she tell her friends about her history nor about her particular condition. I actually was trying to relate to the OP that anxiety about such a social situation as a shabbaton is actually within normal range for anyone, even adults and that there is nothing wrong discussing how she feels about it with her friends so that they can all support each other and make up how they will stick together.
Obviously you are not female and obviously you don’t understand this type of situation because you don’t understand that type of competition or lack of confidence among High School girls. But as much as they can be uncaring, they can be just as caring and supportive. So depending on the circumstances of this shabbaton, others might feel just as anxious or understand the type of anxiety that another girl might feel. Obviously if everyone is in their own home and they are only eating meals together and spending time together over shabbos it will cause less anxiety than if they are going out of the area and being put up for shabbos. Once someone is out of their comfort zone they have more to worry about. But then so does everyone else even if they are not normally prone to worry and anxiety.
Girls especially are different than boys. Where boys will be put up in someone else’s home and have no problem snooping through someone else’s kitchen till they find what they need, a girl will do without rather than intrude or impose, even when it is absolutely normal and not an imposition whats-so-ever to ask for a cup or go into the fridge for some water or juice. It is expected. Where a boy won’t have a problem asking for an extra pillow or towel, or even go into the closet and take one on their own, a girl might have trouble sleeping all night because they will be too shy to “impose” and request anything other than what was supplied for them. Of course this is silly because anyone that offered to put people up are more than happy to accomodate their needs.
Women in general are givers and would much rather be on the giving end than the receiving end, but when you feel socially awkward it is hard either way, but I am sure the OP would have no problem asking her friends or family if she can get them a drink or a blanket or whatever.
As far as the OP is concerned, she might have anxiety that is a little more exaggerated but there are many girls this week in her grade that are feeling anxious or excited or both about the shabbaton.
As far as YOU are concerned please be careful how you read other peoples’ posts before you react and jump into action. Make sure you understand what you read and are not reading what you think you understand.