Instead of looking at the way things are done today, let’s look back in our history. In the shtetel in Poland, the parents betrothed their children at a young age based on family background. (I think most of our families come from these marriages.) In other words, let the parents start the “shidduchim process” before the girls/boys come home from seminary/yeshiva. The reason why the percentage of marriages is higher in the chassidishe world is because the parents are the one in charge of finding/meeting the boys for their daughters and vice versa. (That, by the way, can save the girls a lot of embarrassment…) I think too much is left in the hands of single boys/girls these days and more action is required from parents/relatives. Instead of running to shadchanim, seek our your relatives who have known you for longer than 20 minutes. What happened to those old friends of grandpa and grandma? Let’s find out about their children. Let’s look close to home and follow the traditions of our ancestors. May we merit to continue the legacy of our families to the next generation.
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