Why are people proposing that boys start dating at 19 instead of girls waiting to date until 22/23. That makes so much more sense given the fact that in the Yeshivish world girls are expected to support the family and by waiting until 22/23 the girls will have the time to get an education which will allow them to hopefully get a more lucrative Parnassah than what they would get if they married at 19 and have no education. It also alleviates the financial strain for the parents who now have to either support the kids until the girl finishes her education – or forever because the girl did not get an education. I understand that most parents are not going to want to wait around for their girls to go out until 22/23 for the fear that they will be left behind but if that was the Takana – and people were keeping to it – it sounds a lot more logical. I know that I – the mother of Beis Medrash boys who are not yet in shidduchim – would rather have my boys marry girls who have a degree and are a little older and mature than girls who are 19 years old. 19 is very young to be juggling marriage, job, and hopefully a baby. I think it makes sense to give these girls some breathing room and allow them time before jumping into marriage.
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