Firstly, wlcome back Daas Yochid- as always, your reasoning is presented clearly and logically (whether or not posters agree with you)
Just as a disclaimer, while I am very much pro the Nasi project, I do not represent or even know the people behind it.
chanie T. “Because people are not doing anything other then complain, which in of itself is untrue, as myriads of people are redting shidduchim on their own”
That is all good and well- however, it does not address the issue at hand because despite your good intentions we are dealing with an issue that is much larger than the solution you are proposing You are taking a problem of epic proportions and trying to solve it on a mom and pop scale.
More importantly, you are using a band aid rather than addressing the route cause of the issue. As I mentioned in a related thread:
The proportion of boys and girls born each year is close to even. (I believe it’e 51% girls and …well you figure out the rest)The problem lies in the fact that a boy will typically look for a girl that is 3 or 4 years his junior. Because of exponential population growth, this causes disparity in the boy to girl proportion.
To illustrate, in Lakewood there were approx 600 girls who graduated 8th grade. There were approx 1600 girls entering elementary schools. So even though there will be the same # of 18 year old girls as there are 18 year old boys, there will be alot more 18 year old girls then 22 year old boys. This reverse pyramid gets worse with each passing year.
So while I applaud you for doing yours, and halevei everybody would be so involved, what you are doing by “having single people in mind” it is not nearly as effective or as large an undertaking as what Nasi has taken upon themselves and I think we ought to commend them for that.
Der Geller- “I am referring to the rather inflammatory stance of Nasi which suggests that due to our choices until now we are somehow at fault for the current situation, that the marriages between older boys and younger girls WHICH HAVE ALREADY BEEN DONE are not what the Aibishter wanted, that we have done wrong in doing so.”
The aibashter created a world that runs by the laws of nature. Even nissim were combined with an attributable underlying natural cause so that we don’t lose our bechira (by krias yam suf it didn’t just split instantaneously-there was a ruach kdim aza kol halayla)
We are charged with the task of going about life according to those natural laws with the torah as our guideline- torah im derech eretz. So if something is not going well, we need to look for its natural cause and try to address it. We do cancer research for this reason rather then say this has already been done and is what the aibishtir wanted. Of course He wanted it, but he also wants us to do our utmost to address it which includes looking into ways we may be bringing it onto ourselves, rachmana nitzlan.
While I wouldn’t word it a strongly as Nasi did, because I think the current protocol of 22 yr old boy to 19 yr old girl is based on sound reasoning, never the less, as with any endeavor, we need to reassess our approach and tweak it as evident flaws in the system present themselves.