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I recently read the NASI response in Hamodia. It strikes me that however sincere the person behind NASI is, (about which more later) his basic concept appears to be flawed in that it presumes that shadchanim need to be incentivized to concentrate on finding matches for older girls. My own experience with shadchanus and various shidduch organizations is that these folks already work very hard on older girls and that simply throwing money at them will not have any bearing on the main issue which is that 23-24 year old bachurim want to marry 19-20 year old girls, and the 19-20 year old girls want to get married.
It would make more sense to pay the bonuses directly to the bachurim to marry older girls or to the girls themselves if they refrain from entering the shidduch “market” until they’re 24.
previous posters have pointed out that the withholding of the name or names of the rabbinic supervisor(s) and the hazy accounting methods seem suspicious. The NASI response does nothing to allay those suspicions and, in fact, makes them more suspect than ever. For instance, the response claims that the reason for withholding the name of the rabbinic supervisor is that he and other roshei yeshiva are working on a “secret plan” to end the shidduch crisis and that it will be revealed at the appropriate time. PULEEEZE! “Secret plan”? who is this guy, Richard Nixon? I’m sorry, but the tone and substance of the NASI reply gives the impression that it was written by a crook, and a not-very-smart crook at that.