A wife’s consent is not enough for a husband to learn in kollel, one must take into account the children. How do you know they are okay living in poverty-like conditions for the sake of Torah? Who said they are okay with their mother working full time and not spending time at home for the sake of Torah?
This is why I am only willing to date girls whose parents promise large amounts of money, even though I am not planning to learn. Even if I am willing to overlook money issues and marry a good bas yisroel who has good middos, I don’t have the permission of my future kids.
We agree, right?