GAW -“OK, why haven’t you done so?”
Oh – you got me here on this one. Now let me think -Ok I got it – because I don’t believe in a shotgun wedding.
Why not? Mitzva Ba’ah LYadcha Al T’Acher! Al Tomar Ephne V’Eshne Shema Lo Tipane!
“As long as their Rov tells them not to settle.”
Well if the Rov is telling them not to settle in their twenties -Ok. If the Rov is telling them not to settle in their thirties -Ok in very extenuating circumstances. If they hit 40 already, unless there are other issues besides settling, and the Rov still says not to settle, then IMHO he is Oiver L’fnei Michshol!
IMHO of a divorced guy vs. their own Rov. ’nuff said.