more – A Langa Drosha and what’s the point?
“what was the first thing that sparked that turning point on her part? nothing just happens overnight..”
Too long ago to remember.
“What compelled her most to that path? Prehaps this is a particular phase she is going through in her life, and she will come out of it..”
Perhaps, but I doubt it.
“Why don’t you get a REAL competant rav to talk to her…Sometimes when pple don’t have a strong enough foundation in their youth it causes them the instability later on in life, she may need a good rav to guide her through the ropes and come to understand the meaning of life..”
Not my responsibility right now.
“She can overcome this obstacle from the past and present and you two can reunite. if you can show Your real love and real support, You will both come out of this far more stronger than you have ever been before.”
A very, very unlikely scenario, but there is nothing wrong with wishful thinking.
“that’s not going to help you or anyone else, once you have taken revenge you will inevitably become more bitter than you have ever been before, and will only hurt yourself.”
Actually it will help a lot. And I’ll be much less bitter when I see these Reshayim destroyed.
“I’m not saying you are not a good person, but I am saying that everyone has flaws, within those 15 years of you two being together, did she ever point out any particular flaw that bothered her -the best way to take ‘revenge’ would be to work on whatever character flaws you’ve got, & prove to YOURSELF that you don’t have them within you and that these hooligans that steped between the two of you ARE wrong!”
First of all, I do have these flaws, but so what? Do you really think noone has flaws? And I’m not interested in proving to these people anything -I just want revenge on them. If you think people are perfect -think again and wake up to the real world. Oh I know there are lots that think they are better than the next guy, but in reality they are worse because they don’t even begin to see what is wrong with themselves. So these Reshayim who can only see the Shlect in people need to be punished and I’d like to see it -speedily & in my day!
“with her, you havn’t given the entire picture, but from what you have said, it seems to be that the instability in her youth caused the strugle later on in life that compelled her to stray, in more ways than one. She needs guidance, support, and Answers! That turning point, I’m guessing was based on very deep emotion and not logic. She needs someone to talk a strong dose of logic to those emotions, and get them to combine themselves within her and work together.”
She does need all these things, but it’s very unlikely she will ever get them. And actually she needed all these BEFORE she went into a marriage. Trust me, I tried for years while we were married to get her what she needed, but these Reshayim interfered and didn’t let me help her.