As a mother of boys and girls I find it shocking and faintly repulsive that someone would actively seek a shidduch who can give them ” support” on a monthly basis. I give support to the ill, weak and infirm, those unable to help themselves.
How on earth can a couple build a truly Jewish home with proper values when the first precondition on the chattan’s shopping list was someone able to give him support?! When my ( yeshivish) eldest son got engaged he was offered financial assistance from his future-in-laws and told them politely no thank you, he will provide for his family. Learnt in kollel and studied for a qualification to support his wife and child. Still attends daily shiurium but pays his own way. He has semicha and a honours degree, it can be done. He is not the only one, shameful to ask parents to support a son-in-law, shameful to reduce a young Jewish bride to a meal ticket.