When my ( yeshivish) eldest son got engaged he was offered financial assistance from his future-in-laws and told them politely no thank you, he will provide for his family. Learnt in kollel and studied for a qualification to support his wife and child.
Yes, and how did he live while he was “learn[ing] in kollel and stud[ying] for a qualification…”?
These are the choices:
A. He or she had significant savings. From where?
B. You supported him.
C. His wife worked.
D. His kollel paid well.
E. He borrowed money.
So, tell us which one it was, and we’ll see if that is possible for everyone.