“..We aren’t very far from each other. We both agree to the basic premise: that parents should support their children while they study torah. We only differ in degree…”
The number of years of support is irrelevant; it’s the values being promoted. One believes is teaching their children independence, self-sufficiency, and the responsibility of caring for others; the other is inuring their children to dependency and being taken care of.
Meheicha teisi? Where did you see in my comments that I don’t believe in teaching children independence, self sufficiency, and the responsibility of caring for others. That is a ridiculous charge to make.
And someone who doesn’t believe in supporting their kids after high school at all, would accuse you of the same thing. People who live in grass houses shouldn’t stow thrones.