Medium Size Shadchan -“There are professional people (social workers) who speak to both guy and girl before the engagement and offer their opinion on the likelihood of success of this union. Theres one in Far Rockaway who comes to mind.”
Even if there is merit to this program, which I highly doubt because it takes many, many sessions for any therapist to get to know their clients; how could a therapist possibly know who is going to go OTD or not? Ya know e/o nowadays wants to live in utopia, but the truth is – this world wasn’t meant to have everything given to them on a silver platter. Marriage is not meant to be perfect. I know first hand that a lot of these marriages of people going OTD is because they didn’t get the professional help they needed. Either people mixed in or they didn’t go to good therapists. If you want to stem this tide -start pushing people to go for therapy if marital problems arise. We have to stop this attitude of stigmatizing therapy. We also have to ostracize family or friends that give any advice besides telling them to go seek counselling, either by a Rov with Sholom Bayis experience (not any Rov), or by mental help professionals!