I once heard that a person can have 7 zivugim. One is not necessarily the highest and none are necessarily higher than another, just a different fit based on where you are holding at that time. Like a person from a non-frum background would marry one person but once that person becomes a ba’al teshuva, obviously that person is no longer appropriate for them (unless they also do teshuva, but that’s a different story). The whole goal is to reach “your potential” which obviously can grow and change depending on what is happening in your life at that time.
Don’t get too involved with stopping the YH, I don’t think you have the power, but daaven that you should have clarity to know which is the right situation for you.
Hatzlacha in your journey and may you find your zivug soon!