i can only answer for myself. Yes i know the halacha. I have asked my Rav a shaila on this too. What i do is to generally let men walk ahead of me, especially through doors. You can hold the door open behind you after you pass through. I have heard of girls dropping shidduchim when boys walked behind them, or waited for them to get in to close a car door. And i have heard of girls who dropped shidduchim because they found it rude and insulting when the boys did not. Many or most of those did not know the halacha. Personally, i wouldn’t think too hard :). If a boy knew the halacha, i’d prefer he went ahead. If he waited for me, i’d assume he didn’t know it, or didn’t know what to do, like you.
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