Actually, the “chumros” you describe were the minhag of all chassidishe dynasties before the war. All these “chumros” are based on halacha and chassidus – but this is not the forum for these discussions. The Gerrer Rebbes z”l were of the greatestin all the previous generations, they surely knew right from wrong – it takes some chutzpa to knock them and their “shitos”.
In any case, suprisingly enough, with all the talk about the Gerrers and their “chumros”, all the ones that I know are very happily married – wonders of wonders. There is a much smaller percentage of divorces in their society than in the general “heimish” society – so they must be doing something right.
If you go to Haaretz to get your info, you are in bad shape (i.e. your yiddishkeit is of low quality).
Nishtdayngesheft said it right – talk to your Rov and shadchan. Don’t go to bloggers for “eitzos” – they will surely steer you wrong.
By the way, I don’t know where you live, but if you live in Boro Park, you can see them walking with their wives on Shabbos and Yom Tov – looks pretty normal to me.
Good luck