HaKatan-
as Mom pointed out, I don’t believe you have the right to make that judgement call, given that THEIR rabunnim are ok with their hanhogus.
Logician-
you wrote that you hope I’m not married…..
That’s personal. And very very very insulting.
In regards to the C”I, I believe the Bias Yisrol had the right to either:
Argue with the C”I, or,
Agree with him and understood that the hanhogus he implemented are not contrary to the C”I.
Toi-
compering “chiyuv ksubah” to holding hands is silly. It’s not “nechlal” in the chiyuv. There’s a time and place for everything.
Your chosen teacher said to daven. He didn’t give you clear guidelines. Ger on the other hand has such guidelines.