“Ok, so what you are saying is that if I can prove to you that getting married is indeed toradig, you would understand my case?”
No, because we all know that it is. Prove to me that when someone chooses to not get married at 18 and instead waits until 22-23, and BMG asks them to wait an additional 3 months and learn without any distractions if they want to join the yeshiva, that BMG is the bad guy and is not acting torah’dig.