I appreciated your post and I understood you did not believe this behavior should be condoned.
On a different note, what exactly is inappropriately negative about the alleged attitude here towards MO? I perceive the attitude as frank and realistic, not intentionally negative.
But, for starters: Other than YU/Stern, is there a sizeable portion of any Orthodox Jewish institution whose graduates predictably and repeatedly abandon one or more areas of halacha as a direct result of their attending that institution? That’s just for starters. But that’s supposed to not bother anybody?