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PBA: If I may?
I believe the concept of “tolerance” applies here. We may be backward, but so what as long as we don’t make anyone else act backward?
It’s like MSseeker elequently said. If I want to be “oppressed” (in your eyes), what right do you have to say that I can’t?
I have a very good Dimyon to which any liberal would agree, but can’t post it here. I can’t even post a hint (I did, but edited it out. Too Risque).
I don’t believe in forcing anyone to follow Halacha (B’zman Hazeh). What I do believe is showing why what we do is correct, and having the person give up of themselves so that they may follow.
In this specific example, I have no problem with her leaving. The fact that we allow her to leave (as opposed to other religions, where she would have been an “honor killing”) shows that we are tolerant.