soliek, I’m completely with you. I not only pity her, but I understand her as well. And that’s because I can relate a little to what she went through growing up, just like you can. Thankfully, I had a few role models and a mother who showed me the beauty of Judaism. But I easily could have turned out just like this woman.
To anyone that is talking badly about her, you are just doing exactly the thing that caused her to leave Judaism. She saw it as oppressive, negative, and condemning, and talking badly about her is doing exactly that.
I hope she eventually finds an area of Judaism where she can have a positive experience.