computer77: The very same Sefer that you quoted saying the Shechina will reside in a home of mercy, further recommends the husband be in charge since — says the Sefer — when the man is in charge that will bring the attribute of mercy in the house.
If you disagree, you are disagreeing with the Sefer. Don’t blame the messenger (any posters here.) So far I see no one citing any dissenting Seforim to the above Seforim.