yichusdik,
Forget about reconciling facts, evidence, experience, or knowledge with my or others here assertions. Simply acknowledge, accept, embrace and love the sweet and heilige direct verter of the Seforim Hakedoshim as simply stated in the Medrash Talpiot, Nitai Gavriel, Shulchan HaEzer and Chesed L’Avraham and others. And IY”H when you get married, take advice from the Seforim Hakedoshim. It has helped countless Yidden over many many generations and centuries.
Chachmei Yisroel, with siyata dshmaya from the Aibershter, never let us down.