yoyo56 -“i didnt mean it in that way this guy is an amazing person but he smokes thats his flaw others guys have other flaws and dont smoke chap?”
Oh, I chap, but you don’t.
“also many guys who are in yeshiva smoke…should i go for a guy whos not in yeshiva which means hes home isnt goin to be a totaly torah based home? or maybe it is if im lucky to find a guy who is out of yeshiva and wants a torah home?”
FYI -There are many Good guys in Yeshiva who don’t smoke.
“i guess this is all abt giving up sumthing for another!
would u make the sacrifice if u were inmy case?”
The scarifice is only in your mind. My curiosity is – who is feeding you this info? Who told you that it’s only the Cool With- It smoking guys that are Bnei Torah?
This is what I was talking about with Olam Hasheker. There is no such thing as a Non-smoking Ben Torah?!?! In my mind, an addicted smoker, no matter how well a learner he is, can’t be a Ben Torah.
A “Smoking Ben Torah” is an oxymoron!