OneOfMany -“mermaid was obviously making the point that divorced people, specifically, will try to justify their state and will have a negative influence on your marriage. Which is ridiculous.”
Where did you get all divorced women? He/she was talking about a specific case where divorced women did influence the wife to divorce. So the lesson is – not to stay away from divorced women, but to stay away from bad people. Esp. don’t listen to people who offer opinions on your marriage. If you have questions regarding your marriage – friends & family aren’t the ones to ask. Now is the time for expert opinions, either Rabbonim with Sholom Bayis experience and/or marriage counselors!