I think that the issue with college-educated women getting divorced is that they do not feel financially dependent on their spouse. If there are other factors that might lead them to want a divorce they are not held back by financial concerns since they feel they can be self-supporting afterwards (not to mention they might get alimony).
Health, I just wanted to comment that, knowing how this is a difficult subject for you and seeing your personality on so many other threads, I think you are a very strong contributor to this thread in a positive way. Your points are well taken and on the mark.
777 – I’m not sure if it makes a difference with who starts not treating the other as a king/queen, but the results will be the same. If the emotional aspect of the marriage is ignored, then it will only be a marriage for financial reasons. What will they do once the children are all married off?