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2cents:what you said in your last paragraph was so smart and correct. The reason I became so attached to this rebbe was partially bc he wasnt a profffssional and way to sensitive to my feeelings. whenever I needed him instead of making me get over, wtvr was givin me anxiety, by myself he would always give in and allow me to spend time with him to the point where I needed him almost the whole day!

takewhatlifegivesyou:What grade are u in? mesivta? our situations are different but still probably very similar in many ways…i’m in 3rd year bais medrash and I became dependent on the mashkiach of the yeshiva…& i meant evn if u think ppl are looking at u and reaalize the situation your going through you must realize its not true! nobody notices. Are u doing anything trying to prevent the situation from getting worse? even more out of hand? the earlier u start to break away from this terrible feeling the better off you’ll be thats what i have learnt bc right now u are deep in this hole and it might be very hard for you to get out of it. But the faster you begin to pull yourself out and start to break away to make it a noamal relationship the better off you’ll be bc you want to be in control…thats forsure if you dont back off a little soon then your rebbe is going to be the one that’ll throw you off and i’m only telling u this for your own good its going to get to the point where he’ll need you to stop being so attached to him. if he is the one that throws u off, as oppose to u breaking off extremly slowly but surely, it’ll hurt u very much. you will feel very bad and its going to be much harder to get over it…You must take coontrol! you must start even tommorrow to break off.