Reply To: Anxiety Relief

No I dont think u hav to immediately break off. My mistake I was understnding ur situation to be more serious then u are now describing it. YOu inky talk to this rebbe at length ur sayin twice a month…Thats nothing compared to wat i was doing. I was talking to this rabbbi, hanging in his office with him, going on his errands with him, and sometimes i wasnt in yeshiva just bc he wasnt there! u see my situation was much more serious then yours…You could stay connected with this rabbbi w/o brking off ur relationship but u must stop feeling like w/o him your life is over, and worth nothing bc thats totally not true. You are in yeshiva and you are learning thereby strengthening your connection with Hashem and the reason you are in this world is to serve Hashem. If you are learning you are building ur connetion therefore helping your reason for being in this world. Im sure there is a lot more good that you do….So no dont break up ur close relatioship with this rebbe that you find special in your life. A good peice of advice that i can tell u has worked for me is try rationalizing with yourself over situations…lets say your in this rebbes sshiur and he is talking to another bochur answering his q’s and he compliments that bochur for asking a vg question and you start feeling that jealousy burning up inside of u talk to yourself this will put YOU in control! tell yourself y you should not feel this way and y these thoughts are irrational. it will probably feel wierd in the beginning like that ur talking to yourself and giving yourself advice…calming yourself down.. but you will see that after a few times this will eventually change your feelings and you’ll god willing eventually automatically realize in your mind y these feeelings are irrational and they wont even come to hurt u anymore! this is going to be the most amazing feeling. Why do u say that w/o this rebbe ur life feeels like nothing? i know thats not really true maybe you are just giving yourself that excuse so u hav a reason to turn to this rebbe for help but b4 u go to him tell yourself that i am not worthless w/o this rebbes help. He will be there for me whenever i truly need him and i dont have to proclaim my life worthless w/o him… bc I just want to hav a connection w/ him… my life is worth a lot and i am a gr8 person either way and i cud still talk to him…But bottom line y do u say ur life is worthless anyway? i dont think u really hav a true answer do u?