“Everyone heard of the joke that when on the plane to EY the girls are watching movies while the boys are hunched over their gemaras, but on the way back it’s the opposite……Also I hear that’s why guys like the freezer, to settle down a bit.”
You do a disservice to yeshiva boys in the way you portray them. I hope it’s not true that boys use Israel as an excuse for freedom and to let go.
“It’s only for girls, who don’t know what a boys life is about, is it shocking to hear something’s that are the norm.”
Just because it’s normal for boys a certain age to act a certain way doesn’t make something okay. I always assumed Kollel is meant those who know what life is about and want to make their life Torah. How moser nefesh are you being if her father is paying for it? At least you should make yourself deserving of the check.
That being said, it’s okay to be human and to press snooze every so often or to need to get out once in a while by playing ball (and missing seder), if you really need it and not because you’re lazy or ch”vsh tired of learning.
Before you start dating, you should have an idea of the person you want to marry, and you should make yourself someone who you think that person would be proud of. Then there will be nothing to hide.