thanks for the clarification.
i think that being called “a baby” is an insult- to me that sounds like the teacher is personally offended or annoyed and is loosing his/her temper with the kid. a parent/teacher should never call names. i would theoretically tell a student, privately and calmly, that if he can’t do his work as befits a third grader then i have no choice but to ask him to leave. with that said, i would give him a chance to show me that he can work. and then i would be reasonable–kids are kids, and esp boys are boys. they’re not going to sit with their hands on their desks behaving like angels till 4:30.
i personally left school at 16 and went to an oot seminary because of issues i had with my BY. but i think for every person with a bad school experience there are several who had good experiences. i don’t think its fair or accurate to judge all teachers and mechanchim negatively, and paint them black with one brush stroke.
i don’t regular internet access and wont be able to reply, but i will definitely read any responses when i can.