TCG,
My post as well as Naysberg’s were meant rhetorically, yet you keep on bringing them up rather than directly address the issue.
His post was actually better than mine. Although I’m quite skeptical about the absolute impossibility of any type of filter or accountability/monitoring program, it’s possible that I’m wrong. It’s also possible that if it really is impossible, it’s muttar for you to have it (although it doesn’t seem that way based on the psakim I’ve seen and heard).
You attitude, though, that your need for it overrides normative halachic procedures, and you’ll seek a new rabbi or peer group if you need to, is horrible.