@Soarin: Your opinion of the shidduch crisis is correct–parents taking over. But, let’s not forget what stupid qualifications/questions were asked of “the other” family.
What color tablecloth is used for the Shabbos table?
Do they scrape or stack (the dirty dishes)?
How heavy is the mother?
How heavy are the siblings–usually the girls (what a surprise)and so many others…
We did this to ourselves.
I hardly ever hear: “what about the person’s midot?”
What about the person’s hashkafah?
What about the person’s derech eretz?
More important than the decor of the home.
Let me know if you agree/disagree. I like to read other CRers opinions. Thanks.