Reply To: PRENUPTUALS in FRUM circles??!

Walton137-

I agree with you that people may ask ridiculous questions about the other family. Though I must say that I receive many phone calls from mothers seeking information and never once been asked the questions you posted…I would be blown away had I been asked those question, as I find them insane and completely irrelevant to the characteristics of a person. Mothers of boys usually do question the weight of the girl they are looking into. The table questions are completely ridiculous and I would never want anyone I know to get into a family like that!

I believe that the foundation of a happy, successful marriage stems from the middos and haskafah of an individual. Those are the questions that should be asked!!! It’s imperative to question the true essence of a person and the character traits by which they lead their day to day life, hopefully with honesty, integrity, and true empathy towards others. If only people would awaken and realize what’s really important to them in establishing a solid relationship.

If the decor of one’s home is the focal point of a shidduch, all may be lost, as people have majorly different tastes and opinions. lol