yentingyenta – I wish you much mazel and hatzlacha in finding your true basherte on your own. I hope he walks in the door somewhere that you are, and makes the first move. I met my wonderful spouse that way, and so did two of my kids. And Hashem sent us our zivugim without the need for external shadchanim. So much less pressure and so much more enjoyable experiences. I realize not everyone feels comfortable with meeting on their own, but likewise, many people feel the shadchan process is awkward and uncomfortable. To each his (or her) own.
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