Prehaps what youve decided is the ceam of the crop, hashem has decided otherwise… Either ghese girls that you think desserve the best really dont or the guys that look the best on the surface are really not. Like someone pointed out here, some of the nerdyest guys turn out being the best husbands and some of the coolest hot shot guys turn out being the worlds biggest brats!!
You have to realise shidduch girl thaf you aint the one that decides who is the best and who is not.you seem to havd a controlling personality that you need to work on.
You are not the one thaf runs ghe world…
Trust hashem and you wont be depressed about it. Theres a devine plan for all.
Theres a purposs ahy some people hvs be nerds and some havs to be hotshots everyone here is hk fulfil a tafkid.
The tzar of a hotshot having to ‘SETTLE’ for a ‘nerd’could havd sth to do with thier personal tafkid.