loyal jew- theres a big difference between mingling with goyim, and acting Like goyim. Big difference between hanging out with someone who eats a rabbit, and actually eating a rabbit. Big difference between Experiencing someone who doesnt keep shabbos, and actually not keeping shabbos yourself.
By my logic… you dont know what keeping shabbos is until youve been with people who dont keep shabbos. Thats when life becomes a challenge. Thats when your forced to concsiously make a decison to keep shabbos, instead of doing it because of habit and cause you dont know any other way. And if you stop being frum when you do experience it, that means you never fully internalized it while in yeshiva.
Is it terrible for me to say my life didnt start until i left yeshiva and was forced to see the real world. Thats when i stopped being frum out of habit, and began being shomer mitzvohs for the true correct reasons. Im not advocating leaving yeshiva at all, just saying it doesnt mean the best part of your life is over…