Now to deal with the saying no issue. I always believed that it is a good idea to give a date a second chabnce because people are not always themselves on the first date (so much pressure to be “on”). However, sometimes we just KNOW it’s not shayach, and there is zero point in wasting one’s own time, the time of the other person, and the money spent on the date, for something that CANNOT go anywhere. I was set up with many such guys in my day; one was hashkafically SO far from me, he took his yarmulka off, as he is accustomed to doing in public, even when I told him there were no anti-Semites around. My REBBETZIN had set us up, apparently she had not seen him since he was a boy and didn’t know he had gone leftist religiously. Another guy was so ill-mannered and boorish that I was ready to go home after ten minutes with him. I could go on, but it is not important. I knew these guys were never going to be right for me, so why go out a second time, had they asked.
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